Forget about survival tools, signal flares, and first aid for a moment. We at the Survival School know there is a more dangerous terrain than any wilderness: Childhood. Although this is not our classic topic, our constant work with young people has given us a brutally clear insight into a crisis that has been quietly unfolding for a long time. Therefore, through this topic, we have dedicated ourselves to one, most important goal: The survival of childhood as a fundamental and inalienable value. This is our duty and our responsibility; due to the position from which we see the problem, this is a battle we could not, nor should we, remain silent about. It is time to speak up.
Do not give a child a mobile phone just to take it away later as punishment. It is like hooking a child on hard drugs – and then suddenly cutting off the dose. That is not parenting; that is torturing an addict.
You must understand the battle you have entered. This is not a game. You, as a parent, are waging war against the best special forces in the world. On the other side of the screen are not "games", but algorithms created by the highest-paid neuroscientists and behavioral psychologists of today. Their only goal? To create ADDICTION.
They are part of a team managing the most powerful systems in the world, designed to hack a child's attention, to manipulate the way your child sees themselves and the world. The chances that your child or you wins this fight alone? ZERO.
Do you think you are raising your child? Think again. You spend an hour or two with them after work. The algorithm spends over 8 hours a day with them. Who is the real parent then? Who instills values in them? The algorithm feeds them quick, cheap emotions, dragging them far away from everything natural, deep, and real.
The system's goal is clear: create a consumer, an emotional slave who cannot stand silence or boredom. As someone who has worked with many thousands youngsters, I responsibly claim – smartphones perform a digital lobotomy.
Loss of Identity: Children create a fictional self on networks.
Emotional Atrophy: All children coming to me who are "plugged into" devices show a terrifying lack of attention and focus. They are superficial. They lack empathy and altruism.
False Maturation: They mature sexually too early due to uncontrolled content, but remain emotionally stunted. They look like adults, but inside they are frightened children whose play has been stolen.
The newest and most dangerous phenomenon I encounter is a disorder of reality perception. Children no longer know what is real and what is the screen.
You cannot treat an alcoholic by giving him a shot of liqueur every now and then, thinking you are giving him dessert. Addiction is not fed; it is cut off. That is why strict, "military" measures are needed. This is a brutal war and you cannot win it with mild methods.
My stance, built on decades of experience, is clear: A child should not own a smartphone until they reach maturity, just as they are not permitted to hold a license to operate an intelligent machine—an automobile.
I know what you will say: "But he will be an outcast, he will be considered a weirdo!" Let them consider him one. Because if you give him that device, he might not be a "weirdo", but he will become a zombie – a creature without passion, without deep emotions, without a soul. He will become a freak in human form.
What is the alternative?
The Old Phone (The "Brick"): Give them a Nokia with buttons. There is no fast "swiping" there, algorithms have no power there. Kids with such phones that I met remained 100% children – full of passion, curiosity, and real emotions.
Controlled Access: If they absolutely must, let them use your device for a maximum of 1 hour a day, exclusively for arrangements with peers, under your supervision.
Nature Immersion: Children must be outside. They must feel the cold, effort, victory, and defeat in the real world. They must confront peers face to face, without masks, without filters, without fake profiles.
Punishing a child by taking away the phone, and then returning it, is equal to a crime. It is torture. The only way to save your child from becoming an emotional slave of profit is to take away the source of addiction and push them into real life.
I know, this way you won't "please" the child in the short term. But it is the only way to save the human in him in the long term. So that he grows into a healthy, free, and own individual – the one that the algorithm and others does not want, except you – the parent, the one who wants the best for their child like I do.
Unfortunately, the "smart" phone is just a prelude to what follows – the AI generation.
Učestali prizor današnjeg "druženja" djece. (Ai generirano)
Many children who come to our activities, and who spend a lot of time on smartphones, show a chronic lack of attention and focus. Instead of deep understanding, they display a high degree of superficiality, a craving for quick, simple emotions, and an evident lack of maturity, responsibility, empathy and altruism. Their passion is focused exclusively on social networks – a world in which they have created a fictional version of themselves.
Research suggests that excessive use of digital devices and social media affects several forms of intelligence and cognitive functions. This decline is not merely theoretical; it is chronically observable in practice.
The correlation is by my experience terrifying: for example, children from dysfunctional families who already exhibit violent behavior, disobedience, and early signs of delinquency, typically spend more than 10 - 12 hours a day on a smartphone.
I teach survival, but the purpose of this text is to guide you on how to save the most vulnerable thing—the very childhood of your child.
Childhood is a priceless gift experienced only once. It is like a dream that restores, heals, and enables growth. It is the foundation for everything that follows: the longer and more protected the childhood, the higher the quality of maturing into a healthy human being.
Do not kill a child's childhood, for that is the ultimate crime. It is a betrayal of trust equivalent to that of a priest exploiting a child's innocence under the guise of God.
Therefore, I beg you: Let a child be a child. Spend time with them in a natural environment. Watch their every step and every fall. Be there, but let them fight and mature on their own – in the real world, without virtual crutches and fictional lives.
Parenting is painful. And however extreme my methods may sound, believe me – this is the only way. You are waging war against the strongest psychological special forces in the world and their algorithms and AI. Your chances are zero if you play by their rules. The only chance to win this war is fanaticism. Everything else is just self-deception and justifying your own powerlessness.
Therefore, do the only right thing. Take the smart-phone away from the child. Until the end of their adolescence. Until the end of childhood.
Happy, Healthy, and Emotional Childhood (photographed during the Gnjurac summer camp, where mobile phones are strictly prohibited).
Why don't states like Croatia follow the example of Australia and other more developed nations and legally restrict children's presence in the digital sphere—a sphere widely proven to be harmful? The answer is simple: Networks do an excellent job of creating obedient voters, not critical citizens, activists, or revolutionaries—a large number of whom those states would eventually have to confront.